Your Married Sex-Intimacy doesn't equal sex

Intimacy doesn't equal sex
When a man and a woman reveal themselves to each other, it makes each person feel more vulnerable. And, particularly for men, it's hard to have amazing sex while feeling emotionally exposed. Our earliest experiences with being close come from our relationships with parents. And those relationships aren't (in any normal scenario) linked with sexual passion. That's why some husbands and wives are open about what pleases them sexually only when they have affairs. They feel as if they have to be free of "family" to be free with their amorous impulses.

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Married Sex-Making Lust Last

2. Offer up an emotionally safe way to explore each other's fantasies.
The walls separating husbands and wives romantically do not dissolve spontaneously. They have to be dismantled piece by piece. You can start by inviting your husband to slowly reveal aspects of his sexuality. I recommend my patients say something relatively nonthreatening, like, "I had the craziest thought. Why don't you tell me something you think would really surprise me about what you wish we could do in bed? Then I promise to tell you something I think would surprise you." Putting it that way assures the other person that you anticipate being taken aback, and welcome it. And that means your husband doesn't automatically have to edit out the most erotic parts of his fantasy. If saying anything out loud is just too embarrassing for you, try putting a block of Post-its in an envelope for him with a note that says, Leave a fantasy under my pillow, and I'll wake you up in the middle of the

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Make-up women love but men hate

Neon lips, blue eyeshadow, shimmering glitter, and golden bronzers: This spring, some of the most dramatic looks we saw on the runways are making their way onto our faces. But not everything we dabble on pleases everyone. We had a hunch that some of our biggest beauty obsessions might be turn-offs for guys...so we went ahead asked. Prepare yourself: brutal honesty ensues.

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1. Heavy foundation and powders: "The inch-thick powder is a huge turn-off," says Maxim senior editor Nick Leftley. "No guy wants to kiss a girl on the cheek and then find he¹s wearing foundation himself." A flaking face is one thing, but when your cheek becomes a palette of skin-tone colors, men pay attention...and not the good attention. "I'm always amazed to see women with two-tone faces, two apparently different shades of skin on the face, as if they apply makeup in the dark," says James Oliver Cury, the online editorial director at Maxim. "I'd rather see one greasy face than some sort of melanin imbalance. The nose should match the cheeks."

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2. "Bumps": “I never liked, or knew of any other guy who liked, the Gwen Stefani "bumpit" look," says Henry Belanger, an editor at The Good Men Project. "Be wary of anything that makes your head look unnaturally large."

3. Neon lipstick: Most of the fashion world agreed that electric pouts were a beauty "do" this season. Some men, however, beg to differ. "Orange lips are definitely a departure from what we're used to and not necessarily something a lot of guys I know really respond to just quite yet,” say fashion blogger John Januzzi of Lucky and the fashion website, Textbook.

4. Too-thin brows:"My pet peeve is overly plucked eyebrows," says David Swanson, Maxim's Features Editor."I mean, really? It's basically an advertisement that naturally you're hairier than Robin Williams. If it looks natural, we'd never have to wonder."

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5. Bold eye-shadow: "I don't understand the revival of bright blue eyeshadow," proposes Maxim's Cury. "Is it retro? Is it purposefully over-the-top? To my eyes, it just looks tacky no matter how you wear it." Lucky's Januzzi isn't as bothered by color as he is by application. "Smoky eyes--when done right are great--very sexy and attractive but when done wrong they look a total mess," he says. "Seek professional guidance before trying at home."

6. Rosy cheeks: “As far as make-up goes, I think rouge is for old ladies,” adds Good Men Project's Belanger. "I think guys generally prefer the kind of make-up you don't notice is there, and since there's a lot that guys don't notice I think women have a lot of leeway."

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7. Two-toned lips:Remember Kim Mathers? She was almost as famous for her lip liner issues as she was for being defamed by Eminem. According to our dude survey, the pucker problem was more serious. "When I see thin lines drawn around a pair of lips, I think: Is this part of some gang initiation rite?" says Cury.

8. Glitter:"Women need to be judicious with it," says Cury. "It¹s like any good seasoning. You shouldn't shake it all over. It can overwhelm the main course." That being said, he's not opposed to a heavy sprinkle of cleavage glitter. Figures.

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Master Bedroom

Your bedroom should be a serene oasis where the worries of the

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Your Married Sex — Making Lust Last

How to maintain passion in a relationship.

People sometimes tell me they know a couple married 20 years whose sex life is still as good as it ever was. Here's what I tell them in return: "There are only three possibilities. One: This couple is lying. Two: They are telling the truth, because they

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Weight-loss foods (Salmon)

The oils found in fish such as salmon (check out the official name) have been linked to several health benefits, including weight loss. Replacing beef and pork with salmon as the main component of a meal is a low-fat (here’s how much) protein solution.

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Weight-loss foods (Quinoa)

This ancient civilization thought of their quinoa crops as sacred, referring to quinoa as “the mother of all grains.” Centuries later, the grain (what does it look like?) continues to be praised for its nutritious value. Very rich in protein and fiber (here’s how much) quinoa is an ideal way of satiating hunger without loading up on calories.

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Weight-loss foods (Cinnamon)

Research suggests that cinnamon can help to regulate blood sugar and help the body burn fat. Cinnamon is also high in iron and manganese (here’s how much), both of which are important parts of a balanced diet. Sprinkling cinnamon on sliced apples, oatmeal and wholegrain toast is a natural, sugar-free way of enhancing flavor.

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Weight-loss foods (Blueberries)

Blueberries are a super-food  full of antioxidants, vitamin C, iron (here’s how much) and fiber (here’s how much), all of which have been linked with weight loss. Blueberries also provide a sweet substitute for refined sugars and controversial artificial sweeteners.

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Weight-loss foods (Lentils)

Lentils are rich in protein (how much?) and soluble fiber (useful in treating a common disorder), which is an important combination in combating high blood sugar and preventing the body from creating unwanted fat. Lentils come in many varieties and colors and are a common ingredient in soups and curries.

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Weight-loss foods (Avocados)

Avocados are a wonderful source of monosaturated fats (often referred to by their nickname), which have been linked to weight loss and to a decrease in belly fat (which is often a result of this condition). This creamy green fruit provides the nutrition needed to keep you feeling satiated when faced with the temptation of junk food.

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Weight-loss foods (Apples)

Apples are rich in antioxidants, are a fantastic source of fiber (how much?) and provide natural carbohydrates (how much?) that help keep you sustained between meals. Eating them raw with their skin is the most nutritious way to consume apples, but they also work well in recipes for salads and desserts.

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Weight-loss foods (Vinegar)

Recent research shows that the main chemical in vinegar may help control your blood sugar, and thus aid in weight loss. Vinegar (especially this Italian variety) also makes a tangy substitute to creamy sauces and dressing that can be high in fat.

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Weight-loss foods(Almonds)

Almonds prove that good things really do come in small packages. These bite-sized nuts pack a punch of protein that helps curb hunger between meals. Raw, unsalted almonds are a healthy snack on their own or make a delicious, crunchy garnish for main courses and salads. Compared to the fattier alternative, almond butter is more rich in vitamin E (why is vitamin E important?), iron and calcium.

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Kale

High in fiber (Below is how much) and low in calories (here’s how many), kale can help fill you up without filling you out. It is also a rich source of vitamin A,vitamin K and this important vitamin that boosts the body’s immune and detoxification systems. Eat kale on its own (what does it look like?) or add it to pasta, salad, soups and other main dishes.

Always add kale to your meal

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Red chili pepper

The spicy peppers can kick-start your metabolism (find out what that means) because of a special component (what is it?). You can add red pepper in its ground form to soups (get recipes), marinades and sauces (make one tonight) or cook with it in its raw form.

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Weight-loss foods (Oats)

Contrary to many fad diets, carbohydrates (get the skinny) are not to be feared. Oats are an ideal source of complex carbohydrates that sustain the body and provide the nutritious balance (oat nutrition facts) needed for weight loss. Compared with simple carbohydrates, oats slowly release energy into the body and have less of an impact on the body’s blood sugar.

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Best Weight-loss foods

According to a recent study, red chili peppers can curb hunger and help you burn calories faster. These spicy little fruits are not the only everyday foods that have been linked to weight loss (easily calculate your BMI). Read on to discover more foods that can aid in dropping unwanted pounds.

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Ten Best Health Tips

1) Exercise Frequency

It is recommend getting at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise most days of the week. This is generally aerobic exercise, though vigorous gardening or housework can also qualify. Some weight training is also recommended for your overall exercise plan. Try to do some exercise every day. If you want to use aerobic exercise to control blood pressure or insulin resistance, you should do some at least every other day. If you want to lose weight, 60 minutes a day is recommended. That 30 minutes is

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